great.
I've never found anything too terrifically exciting about this day. yes, perhaps, it's because I've not been in that kind of relationship that this day is aimed for yet, but truth be told, there's just nothing appealing about Valentine's Day to me (other than the free chocolate) compared to, oh I don't know... a birthday or if you want to be more specific, an anniversary with a significant other. I don't know, V-Day has always been kind of random to me.
however.
in honor of said day, here's to a certain girl's thought on a certain type of relationship. please excuse the ridiculous amount of whimsical nonsense, but this is my blog, and remember, I talk about random things like it's my job. excuse all the bluntness and cheesiness you are about to encounter. if you can't stand cheesy stuff, then I assure you, you'd be better off playing some solitaire instead of reading this post.
call me absurd, but I'm beginning to believe that it's impossible for a boy and a girl to be really really close friends without any sort of attraction. I mean sometimes it remains anonymous, sometimes one of them will spill, sometimes it's mutual, sometimes it's not, but one way or the other, the subtle attraction feels like it's bound to be there. so say one of them cracks and tells the other, but it's not reciprocated. can they still be good friends after that? can it ever go back to being "normal"? I wanna say yes, but I know that's not the answer. realistically, how could they go back to that phase of being "normal" around each other? let's say that they do end everything on good terms, for one thing, the one who dotes upon the other will always find himself/herself praising the other and exaggerating every good thing she/he does in his/her mind. on the other hand, the other who feels indifferent to the attraction, has to go to extreme measures to not come off as giving false hope or leading the other one on. and that's just if everything ends on a nice note... so say they end in a complete trainwreck, what happens then? are both parties supposed to just ignore each other and never speak to each other again despite the fact that they've been the best of friends since waaay back? of course, we could assume that the whole thing was mutual and they ended with a happily ever after, but for the sake of my post and all tragic endings, we're going to have to push that scenario aside.
you still following me here? I hope so.
okay, perhaps that was a little random, but let me explain. a couple weeks ago, a friend got me into a Taiwanese drama called "In Time With You" or "我可能不會愛你" (literally translated as "I might not love you").
while I'm by no means an Asian drama fanatic (having only watched one Korean drama prior and never finishing it), I really am quite fond of this one. I'll be honest, I avoid watching dramas for two reasons: a. when I think dramas, I think "oh poo. idiotic lover boy pines for a proud girl who refuses to be loved" (or vice versa) along with lots of exaggerated slapstick. whether you'd like to admit it or not, most shows are either too cliche, which makes it too predictable and/or frankly, a waste of time. in the rare occasion that the drama is not like that, this leads me to b. everything in a drama is (in most cases) purely fictionalized. I'd rather not spend hours gushing over a dream guy that doesn't exist, or building him up in my mind to be someone my future guy can't or ever won't be.
anyway.
the reason I infer to this drama is because "In Time With You" is about a boy and girl who are best friends. they know each other so well, they mind as well be a married couple. however, they make a bet to each other to see who will get married first and vow never to fall in love with each other. it's kinda a given with a plot like this that they will fall for each other eventually, but what really makes this show are the scenes and lines incorporated into it. without spoiling too much, when the male lead slowly comes to realize how he really feels about his best friend, he does not have the heart to tell her. while a part of me literally was screaming, "JUST TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL ALREADY! PLEASEEE", another part of me sympathized with him. what if she didn't feel the same way? would fourteen years of friendships be ruined? and then he cracked the question: "why does 'being familiar' make 'I love you' so difficult?"
the question blew my mind. sure a boy and a girl may have trouble confessing their feelings to each other regardless of their relationship prior to the attraction, but there is something significantly harder it seems when that person you adore and admire is somebody that has been with you through thick and thin. heck, you probably even confided about all your previous crushes to each other. maybe I'm actually thinking too hard and the answer is obvious: if one of them tells the other, then the friendship is potentially ruined. but I mean if you guys are freakin' best friends, you'd understand and move on, right?! RIGHT?! okay, now I'm really making it too easy. all that to say, I'm not sure I can quite answer this question, but I'm dying to know too. if anyone has the answer to to this question, please call me ASAP and we can discuss this over mouthfuls of crumbly Poptarts with a side of irrelevant sob stories and crumpled Kleenex's.
oh and have a happy Valentine's Day.
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